The first question we might explore about how to be happy with yourself is; why are you not happy with yourself? One must know the answer to this one before they search for a solution. Some questions might be the following:
- I am not satisfied with my career or job.
- I am unhappy with my accomplishment or lack of them.
- I do not like the people I work with.
- No one likes me.
- I want a bigger paycheck.
- I want a bigger house.
- I want to give my children more.
- I want to feel worthy.
- I want to be an inspiration to others.
- I want to impress others.
- I want to be good at something that others aren't.
- I want security.
- I want to open my own business.
- I want to be looked up to.
- I want to have as much as my friends.
- I want to be more aggressive.
- I want to work harder.
- I want to be more determined.
- I want to feel sufficient.
- I want to be more independent.
- I want to be more stable.
- I want to see things as they really are.
- I want people to like me more.
- I want people to understand me.
- I want more education so that I can do a better job.
- I want to believe in myself more.
- I want others to believe in me.
- I want to be a better husband, wife, mother, father, sister, daughter, son, friend.
- I want what matters most in life.
- I want to let go of fear.
- I want to be able to know the difference in real happiness and material things.
- I need to let go of all the things which are making me unhappy with myself.
- I am grateful that I have all of the potential that I have and I must learn how to dig into it to make it work better for me.
- I must like myself before other people can like me.
- I must use my strengths to overcome my weaknesses.
- I have a great job but I must study more to get a higher promotion and salary.
- I must find a way to respond to others without seeming defensive.
- I know that I must find a way to not criticize others.
- I am sure that I need to learn more about how to function more successfully within my team at work.
- If I am going to seek recognition; then I must do something worthwhile and worth being recognized, at my own expense.
- I need to work on myself to be a person who sees good in others.
- I must work on my ability to be more assertive.
- I must figure out how I can be more satisfied with what I am accomplishing; put my priorities in place, and dwell on what is good in my life instead of wanting something different.
- I believe that I have the ability to be everything I am meant to be and I will work hard to be it, but I know that satisfaction comes from knowing that having more does not bring true happiness.
- I must look at my accomplishments and be thankful; not be jealous of any other person.
- I must reach for the reachable.
- I must know the difference in temporary happiness and long term happiness.
- I must forget my prior mistakes and move forward with confidence.
- I must not measure my success by another person.
- I must reach for more self confidence.
- I must always remember that my life and my happiness is dependent upon the choices I make and how hard I work for those things I feel I need.
- I must know the difference in needing and wanting.
- I must not think too highly of myself, but be confident enough to make the effort necessary to obtain those things I need.
- I must never depend too much on anyone but me; no one can make my life better or worse; it is up to me.
- I must work at being happy with what I have. If I cannot be happy with myself, and with what I have accomplished so far; how am I to be happy if I had more?
- I must learn when I need to be satisfied and when I need to move forward.
- I must learn what true happiness is, and that it is not actually what I can buy with money or have with things. It is a soul that is satisfied from within.
