Thursday, July 14, 2011

How To Be Happy With Yourself

Shall we embark upon some solutions for finding How To Be Happy With Yourself?  Yes, we shall, and even though this page can say a lot of things that are worthy to be read and said; it will not help anyone if action does not follow.

The first question we might explore about how to be happy with yourself is; why are you not happy with yourself?  One must know the answer to this one before they search for a solution.  Some questions might be the following:

  • I am not satisfied with my career or job.
  • I am unhappy with my accomplishment or lack of them.
  • I do not like the people I work with.
  • No one likes me.
  • I want a bigger paycheck.
  • I want a bigger house.
  • I want to give my children more.
  • I want to feel worthy.
  • I want to be an inspiration to others.
  • I want to impress others.
  • I want to be good at something that others aren't.
  • I want security.
  • I want to open my own business.
  • I want to be looked up to.
  • I want to have as much as my friends.
  • I want to be more aggressive.
  • I want to work harder.
  • I want to be more determined.
  • I want to feel sufficient.
  • I want to be more independent.
  • I want to be more stable.
  • I want to see things as they really are.
  • I want people to like me more.
  • I want people to understand me.
  • I want more education so that I can do a better job.
  • I want to believe in myself more.
  • I want others to believe in me.
  • I want to be a better husband, wife, mother, father, sister, daughter, son, friend.
  • I want what matters most in life.
  • I want to let go of fear.
  • I want to be able to know the difference in real happiness and material things.
  • I need to let go of all the things which are making me unhappy with myself.
This list could be continue if there were space enough.  If we notice the list the majority of this list is I want this and this and this.  I am not satisfied with this and this.  Not once was there a list like the following:

  • I am grateful that I have all of the potential that I have and I must learn how to dig into it to make it work better for me.
  • I must like myself before other people can like me.
  • I must use my strengths to overcome my weaknesses.
  • I have a great job but I must study more to get a higher promotion and salary.
  • I must find a way to respond to others without seeming defensive.
  • I know that I must find a way to not criticize others.
  • I am sure that I need to learn more about how to function more successfully within my team at work.
  • If I am going to seek recognition; then I must do something worthwhile and worth being recognized, at my own expense.
  • I need to work on myself to be a person who sees good in others.
  • I must work on my ability to be more assertive.
  • I must figure out how I can be more satisfied with what I am accomplishing; put my priorities in place, and dwell on what is good in my life instead of wanting something different.
  • I believe that I have the ability to be everything I am meant to be and I will work hard to be it, but I know that satisfaction comes from knowing that having more does not bring true happiness.
  • I must look at my accomplishments and be thankful; not be jealous of any other person.
  • I must reach for the reachable.
  • I must know the difference in temporary happiness and long term happiness.
  • I must forget my prior mistakes and move forward with confidence.
  • I must not measure my success by another person.
  • I must reach for more self confidence.
  • I must always remember that my life and my happiness is dependent upon the choices I make and how hard I work for those things I feel I need.
  • I must know the difference in needing and wanting.
  • I must not think too highly of myself, but be confident enough to make the effort necessary to obtain those things I need.
  • I must never depend too much on anyone but me; no one can make my life better or worse; it is up to me.
  • I must work at being happy with what I have. If I cannot be happy with myself, and with what I have accomplished so far; how am I to be happy if I had more?
  • I must learn when I need to be satisfied and when I need to move forward.
  • I must learn what true happiness is, and that it is not actually what I can buy with money or have with things.  It is a soul that is satisfied from within. 
When we examine our wants and needs; we just might learn that we have enough to be satisfied just where we are and with what we have.  If we learn this; things seem to just fall into place as we progress on our journey.  Being happy with ourselves where we are, doesn't necessarily mean that we are happy with being complacent; it just means that we know that life is a journey.